What’s up wreckless people?!

Here’s the story?! Today while I was out this guy stops me. He insists that he knows me from the library and he’s been meaning to ask me my name and if he could call me sometime but after seeing my face he suggested, “or text”. Things got awkward considering I’m pushing a stroller…. Like in my mind im thinking, “can’t you see I’m busy with someone else’s child?” So instinctively I answered his question with a question, “what do you do at the library?” This question wasn’t the best question considering what does anyone do at a library but the guy actually responded with something I wish I could make up. He said, “I network”.

Now for those of you who don’t reside in New York City you may not be familiar with the people who frequent the library. Here in Harlem it’s usually the people who need a warm place for the day, a place to nap, or a rest area, you know like a bathroom break, directions, and somewhere to snack. So when he mentioned he networked, I was done. And I know you might be thinking what are you doing at the library Aminah but it’s definitely not to network. I go to READ books, enjoy family events, and check out CDs which if he had mentioned any, I would still be writing this story the exact same way because I usually find a way to say no thank you and keep things moving when I get hit on while pushing my 19pound baby.

Which leaves me to the awkwardness of it all.  Firstly cat calls are already weird… I dont care how many men say cat calls are to just tell women they are beautiful. No it’s like a form of creep that resonates out of men because basically it’s their way of saying “I want to eat you, eat you with my bare hands and teeth”. And now on top of that I’m pushing a stroller, or breastfeeding, or comforting a baby so now it’s “I want to eat you while you’re caring for that baby, with my bare hands and teeth”.

Can you say awkward?!

Is this only happening to me?! Please share and comment below about some awkward cat call moments You’ve experienced.

Until then stay wreckless,



Whats up wreckless people?!

I can’t let the new year come without giving a huge shout out to an amazing friend and performer Shola K. Roberts!!!

This time last year I was performing with her in the African Dance Company, Kowteff and since then she has definitely been a huge light in my life. Not only is she a genuine soul but she is super passionate about dancing and intends to share it with the world. I’m not even sure where to begin.

A month ago I attended her Soca Dance class at Mark Morris Dance Center in Brooklyn and this happened. Check it out below.

Then after getting the groove she travelled to her hometown, Grenada to instruct at Conception Dance Theatres’ Diversity in Dance Workshop series, returned to “the states” and was honored by Caribbean Life Newspaper for their 40 under 40 Awards. Need I say more? Well there is more!

To add on to the awesomeness she recently partnered with Carnival Virgin to release a FREE 8 week workout series called Pace, which is happening right now! Along with the workout series, there are some classes happening LIVE in New York City this weekend! So click to purchase here! Who said the winter has to have you in the house eating ice cream and drinking hot chocolate? Even if you aren’t going to Carnival you better pretend you are and get with it! I know I am:-)

Aside from all of this excellence, Shola is a Howard University alum. So I have to represent to the fullest for this girl! So I dedicate this months’s SPECIAL SPOTLIGHT to Shola Roberts:-)

Stay wreckless,


Whats up wreckless people?!

Its been a minute since I last posted but what else is new?! I feel like so much has happened personally and socially that I really lost track of everything and gave up on trying to write about anything. I did stay up to date and posted on social media about all the happenings so I get a free pass:-)

Anyway! Its that time of the year again and honestly these past few months have flown by super fast where literally in two weeks we will be entering 2015. I’m super excited for the new year and as usual this is the time that I set out to reflect on the past year and appreciate some of the top moments in my life. I think this is important for everyone to do especially since this year we have lost some great people to the fight of depression. Looking back at the great experiences in your life is definitely a way to gain a positive perspective and know we are blessed. So here it goes.

Oneka bdayIn January I brought in the New Year in my hometown Atlanta at one of my favorite church. After church I ate at the waffle house. This probably sound less exciting to others but it gave me great joy to be home, with family, and eating some delicious southern cooking. Later that month, one of my good friends celebrated their birthday. I love celebrating life and since we’ve known each other for going on 7 years; it was a big moment:-)

rollerskatingYou know that thing you haven’t done in a long time but haven’t gotten around to doing it. Well in February I took a trip to visit my sisters and we went roller skating!! I know I don’t have skills like in the movie ATL but I can dougie and skate at the same time. Get on that level! Then this month another good friend of mine celebrated her birthday Katniss Evergreen style with some archery lessons! Fun:-)archery



March happened with more celebration! A Housewarming!!! and my dad celebrated his 60th which I blogged about, so check it out:-) If anyone knows me, my housewarming was a huge deal! For several years now I had some unique experiences with living with family and roommates so my own spot was a huge blessing!

sweet 16By April it is clear that every month I have someone’s birthday to celebrate but a special occasion was due to my niece, aka mini me, when she turned 16. As stated at her party, I didn’t have a sweet 16 because I was on punishment so she already was on the right track to be successful in life. This was another reason to go back to my hometown and enjoy family and Im glad I took it:-)


Baby showerThen came my birthday and also a special celebration of my baby boy! So I guess majority of this blog post will be birthday celebrations. Whatever the case may be I won’t forget the “ME” day when I enjoyed a massage, mani/pedi, and wax on my birthday and then Memorial Day weekend, my family and close friends turned up and showed out to welcome the newest addition.


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Then in June I gave birth to my beautiful baby boy!!! After 40 weeks of carrying the love of my life, he entered the world at 7lbs14oz NATURALLY and QUICK! This is my first time sharing belly photos by the way so enjoy:-) I still can’t believe I’m a mother but its real and now I see why mothers say “I wouldn’t change it for the world”.


July my big sister came to meet her nephew and we took our first road trip to the OG hometown, Rhode Island. I know people get confused when I say I was born in RI but it is true and after being back for the first time, I honestly do see why my mother made the choice for the family to live there. Its a beautiful place. However I am definitely a city girl but it was nice to get away and visit the beach:-) rhode island

First Night OutIn August my family had their annual Cousin’s day, which is like a family reunion. It was hosted in Harlem at this soul food spot! I thoroughly enjoyed the food and the welcoming of the newest addition to our family. That same weekend I had my First Night out from being a mom! My twin sister was in attendance and I didn’t last 45 minutes out the house, by the time we made it to the venue I was sleepy but I still enjoyed it;-)

September started off with the Labor Day turn up and then things got a little sentimental when my best friend moved to Rwanda:/ BUT before she left we went wedding dress shopping for the bride to be, Joyse and danced the night away on a boat ride in NYC and everybody knows how magical New York can look at night:-) This month was awesome especially since my friends and I all had huge moments in our life that will alter our forever; marriage, huge move, and motherhood:-) I’m glad we could all share our moments and celebrate the beauty life has to offer.Wedding Dress shoppingtalibahs going away

Grandma turn 80If you are still reading this blog, thank you because in October my family went above and beyond to give my grandma the perfect 80th bday celebration a grandma could have; Great food, great music, and great vibes. I worked up the nerve to tell some jokes for my family and scored the best picture of this year besides any picture of my sone of course. This month I also got back on stage. I was super rusty but I’m glad I got over the fear of restarting what I love to do:-)IMG_0708

God sisters visitEvery month after August brought a new holiday so there was always something to look forward to and when November was near I knew that my god sisters were coming from Atlanta and thanksgiving would bring food, food, and more food. Need I say more? I am absolutely thankful for the people in my life!


December will definitely bring more memories but since I am writing this post a little sooner than expected I will just say that I am happy for the holiday season and family. I put up a tiny Christmas tree with the Kwanzaa kinara to symbolize the values and traditions that my mom instilled in my family. Please remember Jesus is the reason for this season and that is a top moment in itself;-)

What are some things you guys did to prepare for the new year? What are you thankful for in 2014?! Please comment and share below.

Stay wreckless,





Whats good wreckless people?!

Before the month of October comes to an end I wanted to write about something very serious. As many of you know October is Breast Cancer Awareness month but also Domestic Violence Awareness as well. Two important issues that affect women. I guess this is the two for one deal of knowledge, its like the upsale at the register, “Would you like some outdated chocolate with your purchase?”. Anyway two weeks ago, I went to church and the sermon was about domestic violence and you could tell this is a conversation that makes people tense up and get uncomfortable. Honestly being someone who has been personally affected, sometimes I would rather put the issue behind me and attempt to forget the incidents but ultimately it isn’t something we can no longer ignore and here is why.

#1 Fact most domestic violence incidents are NOT reported

1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime

Every year more than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their home

Without help, boys who witness domestic violence are far more likely to become abusers of their partners and/or children as adults, thus continuing the cycle of violence in the next generation.

Women are more than likely to be killed by an intimate partner than men

These statistics speak volume!

Domestic Violence is NOT okay and shouldn’t go unnoticed. After church from that same sermon I went to, I took a walk with one of my male friends and we were discussing this issue. He felt it was the woman’s fault for provoking men, choosing them as partners, and having their children. After this conversation I realized I have a huge task. This conversation is definitely necessary and shouldn’t be uncomfortable for people to expose this issue. In my opinion this was the mentality that promoted many cases to not be reported and for women to feel bad for being victims. Little did my friend know this was my story and for a long time I felt because I was apart of a toxic relationship, I played a huge role in why I was physically hurt. Domestic Violence is NEVER your fault. Plain and simple; LOVE SHOULDN’T HURT.

I wholeheartedly encourage any PERSON who is currently in a domestic violence situation or knows of someone who is to gain the courage to remove yourself or help that person get out of that situation. Break the cycle, create boundaries, and promote healthy love.

There are ways you can get involved and help the fight against Domestic Violence; Advocate, Donate, or Volunteer. Here are a some  organizations appropriate to assist you; Safe Horizon, NNEDV, and NCADV.

Break the silence,






Whats up wreckless people?!

October is here already!!! Bring on the autumn leaves and take back those short shorts(I couldn’t wear them anyway)! If you are mentally going into hibernation mode as I am lets take a step back and catch ourselves from falling now! I know I am not the only one that tells myself it’s okay to stay in the house due to cold weather and plan several dates with my warm cozy sheets but now is actually the best time to push yourself and stay motivated to keep your body in shape and for myself bring back my abs(please come back, Im begging)!!!

Whatever your fitness/lifestyle goals are, I have a solution for you. I introduce to you, Coach Zee. Let me tell you a little about her. She is my sister, friend, prayer consultant, motivator and inspiration. She was probably the only person who continued to call me fat when I was pregnant and even travelled to New York to show me ways to be a healthier person. I can’t talk to her while I’m walking up flights of steps because those are opportunities for her to point out reasons I have to implement cardio into my regimen. However this is definitely someone who lives by example and projects several simple ideas on her social media(IG,FB,Twitter) platform to create a better lifestyle. Recently she was featured on a google hangout discussing all things health; workout regimen, mental preparation, and even recipes! And has launched her website ZadiaMurphy.com ensuring that her knowledge is accessible to everyone! Currently she resides in the DC area but is available for online consulting and online personal training! In a nutshell she is bomb.com and definitely deserves the Special Spotlight of this month:-)

I usually encourage all the big girls to reach out to her but I find that everyone could use a coach! So even if your thighs don’t rub and your favorite foods are kale and spinach, Coach Zee is here for all areas of a healthier lifestyle; mentally, physically, and spiritually:-) So check her out!

What ways are you staying motivated and who do you find inspirational? Comment and share below:-)

Stay wreckless,