Whats up wreckless people?!

Today I wanted to share some of the best financial decisions I made this year in 2015. Some people wonder how I even survive it in New York alone. It is a fact that New York is the most expensive city in the United States; everything cost. It has been almost six years since I’ve been here and often times Im trying to figure out how I have made it too. However through some good decisions, I have been able to save money and use it elsewhere needed.

  • Cell Phone service

Most people laugh when I tell them that I am not with a big cell phone company. Prior to coming to New York I was with Sprint for going on ten years. After a number of customer service issues and phone losses, I moved on to another huge company. My first bill was over one hundred dollars, I didn’t have unlimited data and the taxes on my bill amounted more than fifteen dollars. Finally I look into these month to month company who offered attractive data plans. Since then Ive saved over two hundred dollars alone in one year on what I would’ve paid to another company. I’ve travelled and I have no complaints on the service on the road neither. I won’t solicit a certain company because Im not getting paid for this but I encourage you to look into these smaller basic plans that still fit the needs of a cell phone you need.

  • Basic Internet

This one can be annoying sometimes because a lot of companies promote basic internet for affordable prices for only a limited time span but fortunately I’ve been able to keep my promotional price for the past three years. If you have the power of persuasion I have you can save hundreds as well. The good news is you can still save money even if you can’t persuade them to extend the promotion. Changing my service to basic internet was one of the best decisions as well. I am still able to stream and download at a good enough speed.

  • No cable

Now this is where basic internet comes in handy. Instead of cable I use hulu plus, netflix, and free streaming services for entertainment. Im not a television head so I know most people won’t be able to do without their precious cable. Luckily for me, my mother had us reading tons of books growing up so I never grew an attachment to live television. This has saved me TONS!!! I know friends who pay over $100/month for cable use. Nope!!! I put that money towards other necessities.

  • Unplug Appliances

Surge protecters are great for this situation if you have tons of things plugged up, that way when you leave home you don’t have to do the most to head out. But yes before I leave home, I make sure everything is unplugged; EVERYTHING except the refrigerator. Ive done research and apparently this saves roughly two dollars on your monthly bill but multiple that by twelve and you are looking at a twenty-four dollar savings yearly. Get with it.

  • Moderate Air Condition use

We get really hot summers here in New York and some people go without AC. Im still confused as to how that is possible but what I do know is that anytime your AC is below seventy-eight degrees, your bill increases by six percent. So with that said, I choose wisely as to when I turn on the AC and also when it is on it NEVER goes below seventy-eight percent. This is when it is important to not invite people over. lol

  • Grocery Store smart shopping

There are only certain stores I shop at. Between Aldi, Costco, Trader Joes, and local fruit stands, I am constantly comparing prices and saving money here and there. This one is a given. Take your time to be smart and save a dollar or two. Food is very expensive so even saving cents can add up on a weekly basis. Buying in bulk is cool if you have others to share but I find myself only grabbing few things from Costco but it helps.

  • Food Prep/Meal planning

Anybody spending money on lunch everyday is killing your pockets! Lunch in New York ranges from seven to twelve dollars a day. You can do the math yourself. I usually food prep on Sundays or Mondays and may need to re-prep on Thursdays. Taking lunch and snacks while Im out is simple when you prepare ahead of time. This is a huge savings on the pockets, so huge my calculator just broke!!! Get with it.

  • Home gym

Gym memberships are  necessary to those serious about that fit life. Im not that serious but I know how important it is to be physically active. Along with the long blocks I walk in New York, my apartment building turns into stadiums and a place for me to break a sweat. I run up and down my steps several times, I own a yoga mat, an ab wheel, and a jump rope. This is all I need and would use if I went to a gym. So given that memberships are as low as twenty dollars monthly I am still saving over two hundred dollars in gym membership fees.

These are only a few decisions I made to ensure that I am not swallowed in this jungle we call New York city. What are some things you do to save money? Share, comment, and question below:-)

Shameless plug, if you are living in New York reading this, Wreckless Wednesday comedy show happens this evening. Get your tickets here.

Stay wreckless,

Aminah

 

UnknownWhats up wreckless people?!

First and foremost! If you did not see The Perfect Guy and plan on seeing it, please do not read this blog! Huge spoiler alert! I will not omit any details from proving my five points. If you didn’t see the movie and plan to see it, I would recommend you catch this movie on Netflix. I am all for movies with leading black actors, however this movie was just okay. So leave your grand expectations at the door. Even though Im still glad I went to see it because I went with friends; I would’ve been okay with watching it at home as well.

The synopsis of the movie is basically about a woman(Sanaa Lathan) in a relationship with a guy(Morris Chestnut) who ended up going separate ways due to some differences. Apparently the woman was getting old and wanted marriage and kids immediately and the guy wasn’t about that life. So the woman moved on and ended up meeting the psycho(Michael Ealy) and the movie went down hill from there. He pretty much ruined her life and attempted to murder her too. Drama. I know.

In my opinion the movie was a rendition of the Obsessed(Beyonce) and Enough(J.Lo) so after watching I was like eh. During the movie though, I was engulfed and interested in knowing how things were going to conclude. There were a few surprises like I didn’t expect for Morris Chesnut’s character to die but overall it was a bit predictable. You knew the psycho had to be stopped. Eventually he was when Sanaa Lathan’s character killed him.

Here are five things we learned from the movie:

1.Google your prospective parnter

I guess this is the number one rule these days. I recently went on a date with a guy when he had already googled me. Initially I felt a bit violated but the fact of the matter is its 2015 and people are crazy. The internet is your friend; you should be able to search for mugshots, a resume, or something of that matter to make sure things are on the positive front. Had Sanaa’s character done a little research she would’ve known that the psycho was crazy and had a criminal background

2. Visit your boyfriend’s house at least once before you call him your boyfriend

Im just saying. He is not your boyfriend is you don’t know where he lives. When you are in relationship status, you should know at least one neighbor! The psycho was all in her sheets and knew where the spare key was to her house. By the time she looked up, her house was under full surveillance! Don’t get caught out there like this!

3. You should know at least one of your boyfriend’s friend

There was a time in my life where I had at least three of my boyfriend’s contact information. Now that may have been one of his mistakes, lol, but at least if he turned out psycho I could refer to some references for assistance. In this movie, Sanaa’s character had not one of his friend’s to turn to with her concerns. All she had was the police. smh

4. Don’t hold on to important information

Towards the end of the movie, the psycho eventually started killing people. Once her neighbor was dead phone calls should’ve been made to her other loved ones. She should’ve made a Facebook post or something! Put his picture up around the neighborhood warning the community. But this didn’t happen. Instead Sanaa’s character decided to kick her feet up at home and wonder what the psycho was going to do next. That’s when her could’ve been husband was murdered by the psycho. Foolish

5. Take shooting lessons and consider staying strapped

Ummmm As a single woman, living in a huge house by yourself, and inviting men there that you just me; you may want to have some self defense skills on your resume. Now I am not promoting gun violence but clearly this movie took it to the extreme and the first thought that came to my mind was, “see this is why you have to stay strapped”. Consider both or you can just omit inviting strange men into your home. Either way I know you will figure it out!

Did you guys see the movie, “The Perfect Guy”? They definitely did great in the box office and I’m sure the cast was the reason for the huge attraction! If so what did you think? Are there other lessons we could’ve learned? Comment, like, and question below!

Stay wreckless,

Aminah

Whats up wreckless people?!

Its been a minute but what is new? I’ve been wanting to blog for a while but life has definitely gotten in the way. Its during these times that I wish I had the positive words of encouragement and also the strength to vocalize what I’ve been dealing with but honestly I need a little more time to thoroughly vocalize the trials.

Anyway I am back! and I come with great news! First off I do need to take the time and express how good God is. Even during times of storm, blessings continue to flow and they are only reminders to keep pushing through with whatever I am dealing with. Last time I blogged was in April so let me catch you up on the blessings that has happened in my life:-)

May- I turned 28! I definitely need to take the time and list 28 things I am grateful for! I guess you guys can look out for that blog soon:-) I did quiet clubbing here in NYC and then went to DC to party with family! Definitely a great time.

June- I celebrated a year of motherhood! Honestly this is a milestone for both my child and myself!! Its been a struggle but I made it through a COMPLETE year:-) WOW!

July- My family and I took a vacation to Panama(CENTRAL AMERICA) I have to put that in parenthesis because last time someone asked how long my bus ride was:/ For those of you who don’t know, this is where my maternal family is from. During the trip were blessed to see where our family grew up and the history that runs through our blood. Also we celebrated two of my sisters 30th and 40th birthday along with my aunt’s 50th birthday! BIG celebration!

Believe it or not you are pretty much caught up!!! lol I guess you didn’t miss much but August brings much more excitement and things to look forward to. Fortunately I have been performing all over New York city along with hosting weddings, baby showers, and other private events. Needless to say the summer has been busy! I definitely found time to go to the beach, enjoy picnics, the zoo, and party here and there so as I sit here and type the summer has been pretty dope!

Now that the fall is swiftly approaching, the best news to come is my comedy show, Wreckless Wednesday, is returning to the New York scene! My kick off show will be September 23, 2015 and tickets are on sale RIGHT now!!! I know many of you have supported the show in the past and has continued to support me and I really appreciate it!!! Now its time to make this show even more epic than before!!! So tell a friend to tell a friend and buy your tickets here.

Look out for more blogs, I’ve been active on social media, and Im even working on recording sketches and plugs! Again I appreciate the support and remember to stay wreckless;)

-Aminah

Whats up wreckless people?!

At a time where there is so much chaos and turmoil happening around us, I feel this message is definitely more than necessary for me to write.

Recently in my personal life I had a disagreement with someone I was doing business with. We went back and forth about the situation ultimately having to agree to disagree but before we could come to these terms I began to think of the things I was going to do to get back at this person for what I felt was done to me.

This usually makes sense and feels comforting knowing that I would be able to show the person how they made me feel but not this time. Ultimately I knew that there was no benefit for me to go those lengths. I also knew that what I was doing wasn’t right and negatively trying to affect someones life is basically asking for that much worst to happen in yours.

I vocalized my frustration to my close friends and some family but one conversation in particular shed so much light on what I’ve come to terms with now as, “treat people better”. Now I don’t know what my readers’s beliefs and values are but I know as a Christian woman, I aim to be Christ like. One thing I can say about Christ is that his love was never contingent for any person. Ultimately thats what we have to remember. We have to treat people not based on what they do but based on the fact that we are all God’s children and no person is perfect. I know what Im saying is really difficult to do. I am actually the type of person who treat those I love and respect the best way I know how but recently I’ve found it very challenging to show that same treatment to those who I feel have wronged me or don’t deserve better. But they do.

My friend even told me, she said you treat the people you love great but the moment someone does you wrong or you feel disrespected you have to learn to still treat that person the same. #facts

Theres a saying, “treat people how you want to be treated” but I say treat people better. It’s not that you want to kill people with kindness but ultimately you want your behavior to reflect the blessings and favor and grace that you receive on a daily basis from God.

Recently I posted a quote on Instagram, it read, “don’t become who hurt you”. I think this is so true. Whether this applies to situation with a stranger to someone you know, remind yourself how you want to behave and treat others.

Are you willing to give the same love to your enemies and friends?!

As usual share your comments questions and concerns below.

Stay wreckless,

Aminah

Whats up wreckless people?! As soon as Mother Nature decides what this weather is suppose to do, I will be happy it’s April. Until then I’ll save my complaints for another occasion. Sooo yeah let’s get straight to it. As you can see from the title of this post I joined Tinder. For those of you who don’t know what tinder is, it’s an app for people to meet. Basically you select a zip code and this app will find others around in the area for you to potentially meet and get to know others. A dating app. There are no disclaimers to this message. Ive heard it all, “o I joined because my friends made me”, or “I joined just to see what it’s about”. Yeah yeah yeah naw I’m strictly on this app to see where the hos are at. seriously though I am on here ready to date and I actually went on a couple of dates in the last few months with random guys I met in the streets so I figured this app wouldn’t hurt the resume this far. Most of you already know when it comes to certain things in my life I will be absolutely transparent about it ESPECIALLY when it is funny. So here is the story! First I must start by saying I was discouraged by several people to even join Tinder. Apparently the app had the reputation for people just being on there to hook up. My opinion about this was that the app was clearly effective. Discourage me from joining an app where people are murdered or extremely offended but if people are consensually hooking up that sounds like it’s working to me. Just saying. So I set up tinder and I put my picture up. From that point on my profile was POPPING!!! I mean keep the comments coming fellas because I’m about that life! But I look up and several hours had gone by and I’m messaging several guys. One in particular was funny so we exchanged numbers and agreed to meet in a few days. Yes I’m about this life. All the “BE SAFE” speeches were already handed to me from my close ones so you can keep yours too yourself. Okay this story can get long so I have to summarize. On the night we were suppose to meet, this guy pretty much stands me up. Ouch! I know right! The next day this guy calls my phone several times. I finally answer and say straight up, “this is confusing and you’re making this way to complicated and I don’t know you”. More apologies are delivered and finally we get on one accord to eventually meet again. Fast forward things get weird. I start receiving good morning texts everyday, “hey love texts”, what are you up to texts and I’m just like wait. Pause. Where is this guy’s chill. Fast forward to the point where I just stop responding. At this point this first tinder experience is a fail; even when he attempts to link it’s last minute arrangements and “come through here” texts. Yeah no. So finally I’m like if I stop responding this guy will get the point. Yeah no. That didn’t happen. After more messages and calls I finally text this guy back saying, “I’ve been ignoring you. I think it’s weird how demanding you’ve been considering I don’t know you” So how does it all end Aminah? I’m getting there. It ends with an ultimatum. He texts me saying that he has a lot going on and he doesn’t have time for this implying that I’m the one playing games. Then he goes into saying that if I am serious about meeting up then let’s meet up but if not then I need to let him know so he can move forward accordingly. Ummmm! Why is this my life? So of course I’m like have a good day/life and whatever else you need but then he comes to say that he actually met me years ago and we have a mutual friend but it’s irrelevant now. Omg! I can’t stop laughing. I hope this made someone’s day as much as it was entertaining mine. In conclusion, Im not giving up on tinder nor my dating life. As a single mom I anticipate these difficulties but my philosophy is you have to weed through a few toads to find your prince! as always questions, comments, and all are welcomed below:) stay wreckless, Aminah