Whats good wreckless people?!
Before the month of October comes to an end I wanted to write about something very serious. As many of you know October is Breast Cancer Awareness month but also Domestic Violence Awareness as well. Two important issues that affect women. I guess this is the two for one deal of knowledge, its like the upsale at the register, “Would you like some outdated chocolate with your purchase?”. Anyway two weeks ago, I went to church and the sermon was about domestic violence and you could tell this is a conversation that makes people tense up and get uncomfortable. Honestly being someone who has been personally affected, sometimes I would rather put the issue behind me and attempt to forget the incidents but ultimately it isn’t something we can no longer ignore and here is why.
#1 Fact most domestic violence incidents are NOT reported
1 in 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime
Every year more than 3 million children witness domestic violence in their home
Without help, boys who witness domestic violence are far more likely to become abusers of their partners and/or children as adults, thus continuing the cycle of violence in the next generation.
Women are more than likely to be killed by an intimate partner than men
These statistics speak volume!
Domestic Violence is NOT okay and shouldn’t go unnoticed. After church from that same sermon I went to, I took a walk with one of my male friends and we were discussing this issue. He felt it was the woman’s fault for provoking men, choosing them as partners, and having their children. After this conversation I realized I have a huge task. This conversation is definitely necessary and shouldn’t be uncomfortable for people to expose this issue. In my opinion this was the mentality that promoted many cases to not be reported and for women to feel bad for being victims. Little did my friend know this was my story and for a long time I felt because I was apart of a toxic relationship, I played a huge role in why I was physically hurt. Domestic Violence is NEVER your fault. Plain and simple; LOVE SHOULDN’T HURT.
I wholeheartedly encourage any PERSON who is currently in a domestic violence situation or knows of someone who is to gain the courage to remove yourself or help that person get out of that situation. Break the cycle, create boundaries, and promote healthy love.
There are ways you can get involved and help the fight against Domestic Violence; Advocate, Donate, or Volunteer. Here are a some organizations appropriate to assist you; Safe Horizon, NNEDV, and NCADV.
Break the silence,