Whats up wreckless people?!
Excited about spring?! Or naw! Lets take a moment and forgive mother nature for being confused about what time it is in life!
No seriously I believe the warm weather is coming and with a little patience we can ignore the drastic temperature changes and appreciate when the sun is up.
Anyway I was up this morning with a wandering mind reading blogposts from “the praying woman” and I came across a wonderful post about forgiveness. Sometimes I come across several things on the internet that I feel just constantly attest to my life’s testimony. Within these past few months forgiveness has been one of the most difficult challenges I have faced since I can realize it; Forgiveness with the past, strangers, friends, family and most importantly myself.
Currently I can say I am in a great place in life. I have been able to make some tough decisions and strengthen my core faith/belief system. I definitely feel more confident and positive with my life’s perspective and I am so excited for things to come. Its truly through my lessons with forgiveness especially during a painful season that I wish to reflect and share with you guys in hopes that someone else dealing with anything can read and it possibly help them.
Listed below are a few lessons I learned from forgiveness.
- Forgiveness is freedom
I hadn’t realized how many grudges I had been holding on to from my past. Things that happened several years ago that made me bitter, angry, and ultimately unhappy. Letting those things go and moving forward was the best gift I gave to myself. It was the opportunity to be free from those ill feelings and ultimately allow myself to forgive more recent situations without force.
- Forgiveness doesn’t mean you keep anyone in your life
Just as it says in the bible, forgive them for they know not what they do. Many times people disappoint and betray from what they know. It could be many reasons why but its not for you to figure out nor continue to put yourself in harms way. It is okay to remove someone out of your life in order to forgive them. Just as you let the pain, frustration, and anger go; let them go as well. It used to be a huge burden to eliminate someone out of my life but I had to realize that it doesn’t mean I want to hurt that person, it just means I want to separate myself from the destruction that it is ultimately causing myself.
- Forgiveness takes time
Don’t expect to wake up one day and boom you suddenly have forgiven. It takes time. Especially something that hurts really deeply and is hard to stop replaying in your mind. Allow yourself the time to get through and move foreword, know that the harder it is it won’t come easy and often a few months of rest or more will give you what you need.
- Forgiveness requires prayer
In Matthew 18:21-22 Peter asks Jesus how many times he should forgive his brothers who sin against him and Jesus says, “I do not say seven times but seventy times seven”. Forgiveness requires prayer. Need I say more? Even if you practice another religion or whatever your spiritual connection to the universe requires, you will need the power of prayer. The more you pray for forgiveness, the more you will be blessed with its peace you deserve.
- Forgiveness requires change
Don’t think you are about to continue being the same person and forgive. In a perfect world this could be realistic but it doesn’t quite happen like that. Do believe that you have what it takes but it will require more strength, more love, and more soul than you have applied to anything else in life. Consider yourself brave for accepting the challenge and embrace the new you that is bound to evolve after your process;)
Love is forgiveness and if you are anything like me, you believe in love and want to see love conquer all.
I’m done with the sappiness for the day but to those who are struggling with forgiveness, I wish you all the best! If you have any comments, questions, or suggestions please list them below.